Sunday, December 14, 2014

The Last Post

Hopefully that is the last post before January I mean.
Today we had our Group's Christmas lunch at the Gascony Hotel.  I have walked my socks off this week and after walking up to visit Joy yesterday I decided that would be the last walk till I get back from my cruise.
However when I tried to get a taxi this morning the blighters had all switched their phones off.
Out of the blue I got a phone call from Veronica.  She and Peter are now settling in their new house
near Torquay and had driven up to stay in their caravan for the Group's dinner.  Before I could tell her of my plight she suggested picking me up.  Wasn't that lucky?
They have not been so lucky as their excellent decorator had a heart attack whilst working there.  They have visited him in hospital and thankfully he is recovering and has a stent which makes him feel so much better he has to be restrained from going back to work for a while.
The excitement this week was when a handsome fire fighter came to inspect my three electric blankets.  One was antediluvian so I said don't bother to test it - just dump it but he took them off and asked if I wanted them to be dumped if dangerous.  Luckily one passed with flying colours - even though it came from Mum's house and the other two - including the one I have been using every winter - were pronounced dangerous and dumped.  Full marks to them but black marks to Customs
who charged a hefty charge on a Christmas gift from family in Australia and the Royal Mail zapped a handling charge on top.
Not exactly Christmas spirit.
So one more sleep and I'm off on the high seas.  It so much nicer this time because instead of joining a ship of strangers I shall have my friend Dylan and a new friend - his grandson - who is 15.
And then when we land back at the end I shall be met by my eldest son and whisked off to spend New Year with him my DIL and two grown up grand- children - home for Christmas.  I'm so grateful for this; just lately I 've been thinking I'm beginning to get over everything and then Wham bam you're bowled over again - back to square one.
I shall miss you all - and my lovely Scrabblers.  God bless, keep the faith and see you in the New Year.xoxoxox

 Before the welkin rang
 Warming up a bit.
Here we go!

Monday, December 01, 2014

Walk on by?

All seemed quiet as we left the restaurant on Saturday night but as we looked down the street on the opposite side of the road we could see two men leaning over a motionless body on the pavement.
It wasn't clear whether they were helping him or were responsible for him being there. What was clear was that they appeared to be the worse for drink.

Suddenly one of them, in a curious fancy dress of an American cop set off swiftly up town.  As he passed us on the other side of the street I called out.

'You aren't just going to leave him there are you?'

He glared at me and said he was going to get the police.  This didn't make sense as the station is a good half mile away.
'Are you sure,' I asked?
More glares and he continued up the street.

There was a taxi driver who had just pulled up so I crossed the road and asked him if he could phone the police.  He told me that wasn't in his remit and drove off.

We went to the injured man who was now coming round and clearly had a bashed eye.  The other chap was trying to get him up and the victim was struggling against him.  I was suggesting it was better to let him lie preferably on his side as it wasn't clear how injured he was.
  Neither of them were taking any notice and continued struggling with each other.

It seems there is a community police man around on a Saturday night which the man I challenged must have known about so I was wrong to doubt him.  We were very relieved when he returned with
said police man.

Before I had time to apologise he berated me and told me to NEVER question his intent again (or words to that effect.)

I did humbly apologise for doubting him and explained that during this last year there had been a similar happening in Minehead and the victim had died alone in the street.  I was afraid that could have happened again.
An ambulance was called,  the 'American cop' and I shook hands and as we were leaving- to my astonishment he gave me a hug.

We saw the ambulance arrive as we continued home.

I do regret doubting the chap; it's the sort of happening I'm not very experienced in.  My children think I should not get involved.

What do you think?

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

What's happening to TV drama?

First they became inaudible with mumbled dialogue - not a consonant in sight.
 One of the worst offenders the lovely Jake in' East Enders' - presently dazzling us with his twerking in 'Strictly.'
There is excellent characterisation from him as the hapless Max - but it's pointless if we can't interpret the mumbles and don't know what he is saying.

Now it is the plot which - many of us have lost watching BBC's 'The Missing' - a cracking good thriller with all the ingredients for a  first rate series apart from two missing factors: clarity and cohesion.

At the moment I'm all at sea - and I'm not the only one.  Is it perversity on the part of the authors - there are two of them?  It seems to be the fashion right now to jump around time- wise but apart from the occasional 'present day' sub title we are left to puzzle it out.

Ironically at the denouement - in three weeks time - I really shall be at sea - on board the Braemar so all will not be revealed. Not to me.

Lovely to see the great Diana Quick again though

Frances O'Connor and James Nesbitt

Monday, November 17, 2014

Buster 2000 - 2014

Darling Buster -  a Staffie much loved by all the family left us yesterday.  Rest in Peace.

Thursday, November 06, 2014

Christopher's story

Christopher’s Story

The day war broke out Christopher Rogers was eight years old.  He was the youngest of four children and they lived with their parents in Stepney.  Chris’s father would turn up at the docks each day hoping the ganger would pick him for a day’s work.  Life wasn’t easy but the parents were hardworking and took good care of the children.
One of Christopher’s earliest memories was when a welfare lady was giving his hard worked mother some respite by driving her and Chris to her own house.  As they entered the drive he heard some stirring music being played on a pianola.  It was Marche Militaire by Schubert and by a strange coincidence the first time Chris visited me to talk about his childhood he heard the very same music on his car radio.

They lived in a row of terraced houses with a view of the cranes from London docks over the roof tops and Chris remembers being frightened of the menacing, metal arms of the cranes.

All of us of that era remember the fateful Sunday morning when Neville Chamberlain said on the wireless- “No such undertaking has been given,” and we knew we were at war.


Two days later Christopher and his elder brother Charlie went to their respective schools carrying their gas masks and were told to go to straight to Charlie’s school.  He was not to return to Jane Street for another 73 years.  He was evacuated aged eight and returned aged 80 for the Queen’s Diamond Jubilee.


All the teachers and pupils were strangers to Chris.  Charabancs were lined up outside the school and they took the children to Baker Street Station.  None of them knew where they were going –some thought they were going on a picnic and – typically of the time - they did as they were told without question.


There were barriers up at the station to keep the parents out – there had to be no tears – no fuss.  Evacuate forthwith was the catch phrase of the hour.  They came to the end of the line at Harrow on the Hill and the engines were changed; a steam train took over and they ended up in Chesham


During this period children were being evacuated to places all over the British Isles and also further afield in the USA, Canada and Australia so it must have been a little surprising when Chris and his brother realised they were just 28 miles from Charing Cross and could see the glow of London’s lights - before the black- out was enforced.


The children walked in a crocodile along ‘The Backs’ which ran parallel to the railway lines and when they reached the local school they were given a drink and a sandwich and waited to see what would happen next.  Looking back Chris said it was like a cattle market.  The villagers told the billeting officer what they required and suitable children were selected.  Nobody wanted two boys and Chris and Charlie were left unselected.


They were taken to a Mrs C but she wanted two girls.  They were trundled to another place in the High St to a Mr M.

Chris said:

 ‘Mr M didn’t want us so in desperation we were taken back to Mrs C.  We stayed with her for the minimum time allowed: six months.’

Chris can’t remember his feelings at the time but he often wondered about his parents looking at the two empty chairs at tea time.


Mrs C’s house was down a ginnel behind a sweet shop and a shoe shop.  The boys shared a bedroom and the highlight of the week was Sunday tea with a boiled egg-their weekly ration - and ‘soldiers’ (fingers of toast dipped in the egg yolk)


The local school was full so they were educated in the local church – St Mary’s.  Chris was lucky in having large feet which qualified him for extra cheese rations

He remembers his father visiting after a month or two - laden with comics for the boys.


The bombing started in 1940 and the first year was known as ‘the phoney war’.  Many of the parents took their children back to the city.

Chris and Charlie were taken – after 6/12 – to a new billet in Pond Park. - which Chris is reluctant to talk about.  I don’t think they were ill treated but there was no love and money was the incentive for some of the villagers to take in these little strangers.  They were paid ten shillings and sixpence for one child and seventeen and sixpence for two.  A shilling went a long way in those days.

Then Chris got impetigo and had to be moved to a hostel.  Impetigo, scabies and nits were common during this period and – unfairly - the evacuees were usually blamed.

The bombing became relentless - planes would drop incendiary bombs which would light up the whole of London making the black–out ineffectual.  It was too much for Chris’s mother who was recovering from appendicitis so the parents also came to Chesham and eventually the family were reunited.  The boy’s grandfather remained in the house in London for the rest of his life and Chris and his parents never lived in London again.

‘Didn’t your grandpa want to join the family,’ I asked Chris?

‘Was he asked,’ Chris answered?

In fact Chris didn’t return to Jane Street in Whitechapel until he was in his eighties and came up to London for the Queen’s Diamond Jubilee.  Jane Street was now just a small close after Mulberry School for Girls was built over it.


‘It was sad to see how little remains of it.  I miss London – its part of me,’ says Chris and even today – in his eighties never misses an opportunity to go up to the capital, to satisfy his two great passions: cricket and the musical theatre.


Chris remembers the day he saw his father looking distraught and asked his mother what was the matter.  It seemed Chris’s Grandma and aunt had refused to go in the shelter during an air-raid and got a direct hit.  His father had to sift through the rubble and found a hand.  The remains were collected in sacks


Another devastating memory was when Chris‘s cousin, who was in Bomber Command, was shot down over the North Sea.  Of 795 that took off from British bases to target Nuremberg on March30 1944, 95 would not return – a brutal illustration of the dangers faced by the young men of Bomber Command.  Of its 125,000 men - all of whom were volunteers 55,753 would not survive the war.


In 1944 the dreaded doodle bugs started.  You would hear them and then the engine would cut out and there was a deathly silence and you were lucky if you survived.

At one time they would be coming over every twenty minutes.  Londoners - men, women and children were having as tough a time as any front line soldiers.


When the war ended Chris was 14; he left school and got a job making surgical instruments earning £1- 3 shillings a week.  From then until his National Service he drifted from job to job which including making Ercol furniture and Goya perfume - .always trying to get more money to help his mother.  Chris was very close to his mother and an unforgettable memory was when she took him to see ‘The Wizard of Oz’. he was about seven years old and when the black and white film changed to glorious Technicolor he was entranced and has been a fan of the musical theatre ever since.  When the film ended Chris refused to leave, stayed alone to see the film again and had to face the wrath of his father when he got home.  In those days a’clip round the ear’ and worse was not unusual.


At call –up time Chris went in the army rather than the navy or the air-force because

‘I couldn’t swim and I couldn’t fly.’


Within a year he was part of an advance party that went to Germany to set up barracks for the unit.  He was a Battery clerk and eventually as a lance corporal received two stripes.  At the end of his spell of duty he was told that if he signed on he would become the first sergeant recruited from National Service but he missed his home and family and turned down the opportunity.


I asked Chris if he fraternised with the Germans; they would go into town to the beer gardens but he said he and his family had suffered too much to mix with the German people.  He told me if ever he went on a world tour he would only visit countries who were pro British.


‘Be back by Tuesday,’ he quipped.


He had a break visiting the Isle of Silt in Westmorland which he assures me is in Germany. 

The unit came back to the Woolwich Depot, he was demobbed and went back to work at Goya.


They didn’t have holidays but any spare time Chris would spend at cricket matches and watched test matches at Lords.  He had played cricket at school and continued to play for most of his life.  Nowadays he watches his grandson (also Chris) play and the cricket ground in Minehead is just round the corner from his house.  His favourite position was fielding and he enjoyed anticipating, running and catching.

These days Surrey is his favourite team.


During the war there was a man shortage and no lack of jobs; but afterwards – with all the men demobbed - it was a different story and Chris was made redundant at Goya despite the fact that he had been reinstated.  He had met a girl at Goya and they became engaged but Chris

‘didn’t meet with the full approval of her family.’  They gave the girl such a hard time that Chris broke it off.


Although he was never out of work Chris was very restless and drifted from job to job the incentive being to earn more money to help his mother.  By now his elder siblings were all married and then he met the love of his life: Fay.

It was just an ordinary night out with his pal Olly and Olly’s girl friend Mabel but when they met up with Mabel on the top of a London bus she had brought her friend Fay.  Olly suggested they had a drink and go dancing.  It wasn’t love at first sight but

 ‘We had the last dance together and then I saw her home and that was that, ‘said



  The families were all Londoners - they all got on and in due course Chris and Fay were married in Great Missenden.

A great sadness was when Fay’s uncle was killed on the beach at Dunkirk.

Fay’s mother became very ill with breast cancer and the young married couple went to live with Fay’s family and nursed her until she died.


Eventually Chris and Fay set up home at Amersham and had three daughters who now have their own families: Beverley the eldest has three boys, Gail has one son- his grandfather’s namesake, and Dawn - a boy and a girl.  Dawn’s daughter gave Chris his first great grand-daughter Madison.


When Chris and Fay reached their Silver Wedding Chris planned a surprise – a trip to a lovely little Pension in the Tyrol but at the last minute it was discovered that on Chris’s birth certificate his name was Christopher John Rodrigues instead of Christopher John Rogers and the whole surprise trip was in jeopardy.  At the last minute Chris signed a Statutory Declaration stating that the two names were one and the same person and their second honeymoon was saved.  But the mystery of his father’s signature S. Rodrigues remains.


Chris’s father came from Holland and Chris – like most of his school mates was of Jewish origin.  As we reminisced about war-time we both remembered the horror of that news reel that was shown in all the cinemas about Belsen.  I wondered if Chris had ever thought about what would have happened if his father hadn’t come to Britain.  He said he hadn’t but he still has the special candle sticks that had belonged to Fay’s mother.


It was a very sad blow to all the family when Fay died very suddenly in December 2009.  They rallied round Christopher – the head of the family and a true patriarch and he had the good sense to join the Bereavement Group in Minehead now known as the Friendship group.  Chris was one of the first members.  His daughter Gail owns the beauty salon I use and it was through her that I joined the group and met Chris.  The bond we share is the recognition that we have both lost a once in a lifetime partner.


Chris is much loved and spoilt (I tell him) by his family who love to surprise him with treats from his bucket list.  He has had many exciting trips to the States and treasures the times he spends with his extended family.  Occasionally he mentions things he would still like to do and I have to remember I am sworn to secrecy when Gail is styling my hair and giving me the third degree.


Gail remembers when her fifteenth birthday and had the usual presents then out of the blue came a brand new bicycle for her and one for her younger sister and £50 for the eldest to spend as she wished.

Chris said it was to make up for the times when they didn’t have special presents.

He always believed in keeping out of debt and not living beyond their means and because of this he thought his children had suffered and wanted to make up for it.

What he fails to realise is that his three girls were given plenty of the essentials: love and care.


See Two lots of photos below


The Girls grown up.

Gail, Beverly and Dawn.

Christopher's story

Young Chris
 Chris and Fay
 A Great Match
 Chris's three daughters
Chris up in London

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Bloomin' lovely.

The shumak (spelling aprox - not in my dictionary) is not a favourite of mine but today (the scarlet, centre) it's earning its keep.  The enormous tree on the right has the unique ability to shed all its leaves in my garden.  I had plans to collect them - put them in plastic bags and use as leaf mould but a trip over a  rug (now banished) has given me second thoughts.

Monday, October 27, 2014

Cheltenham Visit

The first day I wandered round Margaret and Malcolm's small but perfectly formed garden taking shots in case the lovely weather broke.  It didn't.
On the 2nd of October  the array of colour is amazing but then Malcolm is a plants man and Margaret a devoted gardener.
Click on each one to do them justice.

Such a deep purple.

Loved this

Amazing rose.

But this was a stunner

A couple of days later we had a mini hurricane and this shining object went bananas   Fun to watch

An unusual position for Margaret.  Just sittin'.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Decorating progress

 Preparation, ceiling and paintwork nearly finished
 The curtains for the right hand windows have washed and ironed perfectly as have the ones in the middle.  But the ones on the left, overlooking the garden and getting blistering hot sun have lost the linings and are in a delicate state.
 My plan is to hang the damaged curtains so that they are just hanging at the sides like open theatre curtains - never to be drawn - and I am investigating vertical blinds which will also protect the newly painted sills.

After a swirly swish in the bath these little beauties came up like new.
Wednesday: decorating finished.  Now what went where?

Thursday, October 16, 2014


Relief that one of the drawing room (it's being decorated) curtains circa 1985 has survived the washing machine.  One down - five more to go.  Well done Next who made them.  I don't relish the rehanging; the weight of the curtains - up a ladder, whilst achey fingers try to manoeuvre the hook into the hole hiding under the fixed pelmet.  This will be the last time.  Hurrah!

Wednesday, October 08, 2014

A Turning Point.

It was coming up to Christmas last year - the first since I lost MTL - when I got a phone call from Jack.  I had known him since I was in the lower thirds at Grammar School and he was a dazzling fourth former - good at school work and ace at sport.  We both left at the same time - he to become a medical student and me to train as a nurse.  We kept in touch for a while - I had had a slight crush on him,  and then our paths diverged - he stayed in the north and became a doctor and I - after becoming stated registered - went south and started a modelling career.

Decades later I married MTL and went north again.  Visiting my mother I noticed in the local paper that one of the teachers I had known was mentioned and - on a whim - went to visit her.  She was full of enthusiasm for the School Reunions and mentioned Jack as being one of the stalwarts who always turned up.    She persuaded us to go to the next Reunion and there was Jack - much the same- and we became friends with him and his wife Jenny; we would see them when we visited our cottage in Yorkshire and they would come to see us when they came to the south west.

Our correspondence had dwindled because although Jack was an inveterate letter writer I was converted to emails and that was off Jack's radar so as age inhibited travel we kept in touch with the odd phone call - usually on a Sunday afternoon.

" Jenny and I were talking about you the other day and we thought - poor Pat - all alone in that big house."

After a bit more chat I put the phone down, made a cup of tea and had a think.  Those words reverberated in my head.  I was an object of pity;  I didn't feel sorry for myself - on the contrary I felt I have been blessed - so why should anyone else feel sorry for me ?  And these were nice decent people.  Have I been giving off pathetic vibes?

Sod that for a lark!

Something had to change; either I could spend the rest of my life spiritually crippled or I could take charge of what's left of my life and live it to the full, as if MTL were still by my side.  The first thing I did was book to go on a cruise - alone - to see the mountains and fjords of Norway.

On the first night I still remember the slight panic as I made my way to the restaurant I had chosen

" I was shown to a table where a gentleman was already sitting.  I knew he was a gentleman because he rose as I approached.  This was Dylan – he was Welsh and for the rest of the cruise we were dinner companions.  Dylan had asked to be on a large table but when I turned up decided to make the best of it.  Fortunately we had a similar sense of humour."

Dylan has become a firm friend - what we used to call a platonic friend.  Fortunately he is computer friendly so we can both exchange our daily minutia without boring the pants off each other.  Recently he came to spend a few days in a nearby hotel where he used to stay with his late wife and the weather was kind.  One day we joined our friendship group in Porlock Weir and it went well.
Of course it is difficult for people to understand when they haven't met the person involved.

DIL"We don't know anything about this Dylan -  you should phone your mother and make sure she is OK."
Son "  I did - there's no answer."
DIL"  She could be lying in a pool of blood!"

For a while Dylan signed himself the Axe man.

I'm grateful to Jack for prodding me to the turning point and in December - over Christmas - I am cruising in the Canaries - on the same ship as my friend Dylan and his 15 yr old Canadian grandson.

It goes without saying that my heart belongs to MTL.  Always.

Thursday, October 02, 2014


Visiting my old friend Margaret for a few days.  Back soon.  K.T.F. xoxox

Monday, September 29, 2014

September 29th - Michaelmas

Michaelmas is the feast of St Michael the archangel. 
 Michael - 'who is like to God ' was the war cry of good angels in the battles fought in Heaven against Satan.  Michael was the greatest of the archangels and is honoured for defeating Lucifer in Heaven.
Because the day occurs on the 29th of September it falls near the equinox and is associated with the
beginning of autumn and the shortening of days.  Michaelmas marked the ending and beginning of the husbandman's year.
Michaelmas also marks the first day of the autumn term.
The lilac and purple asters which bloom at this time are known as Michaelmas daisies.
Michaelmas gales assail the waning year,
And Michael’s scale is true, his blade is bright.
He strips dead leaves; and leaves the living clear
To flourish in the touch and reach of light.
Archangel bring your balance, help me turn
Upon this turning world with you and dance
In the Great Dance. Draw near, help me discern,
And trace the hidden grace in change and chance.
Angel of fire, Love’s fierce radiance,
Drive through the deep until the steep waves part,
Undo the dragon’s sinuous influence
And pierce the clotted darkness in my heart.
Unchain the child you find there, break the spell
And overthrow the tyrannies of Hell.
Malcolm Guite

For Vagabonde

Friday, September 26, 2014

Michaelmas in the garden

Slowly cyclamen are finding their way to this wild part.
BTW it isn't Michaelmas until the 29th - but you knew that.

This isn't St Michaelmas and it isn't my garden alas - but it is Jesus- courtesy of my friend Gia.

Bless them they come up each year

This must be one I put in last year

It's been so mild the front door has been open all summer.  I do like a good blow through.

Those of you paying attention will remember I decided to empty the fountain, fill it with stones from all over the place and let nature take its course.  What I didn't realise it takes a hell of a lot of stones to fill it so this frog found its way there.
Naturally I asked the Welsh man to bring a couple of samples and - although he thinks I am barmy he obliged.
Aren't they smashing?

Still a way to go.
Click for bigger pics.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Things a woman likes to hear.

Dylan:  The difference between your house and mine (he has two cleaners) is that yours sparkles.

I can't wait to tell Sheila.  Please excuse my smirk:)

Thursday, September 18, 2014

New York New York!

Angus at Dawn:-   "I'm heading back to Staten from downtown Manhattan, wind blows so hard, I'm trying to keep my hay on."
I think 'hay' is a typo.  Anyone's guess but what a stunning city

Wednesday, September 17, 2014


I just felt like a tomato omelette.  I steeped the tomatoes in warmed butter and fresh chopped basil and flavoured the 2 egg omelette with fresh rosemary.
Presentation B minus
Taste delicious
Juices mopped up with a wholemeal roll.
A little less rosemary next time..

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Meanwhile - in another part of the Forest...

This is beautiful Snake River just taken by my son Angus who is visiting Wyoming - lucky boy!
It' s a few miles south of Jackson.  Magical names.  Has anyone been or does anyone know it or even live there?