Thursday, March 18, 2010

In Malto - Madness


Yesterday’s post reminded me off the months between my leaving home to join MTL and marrying him. We spent long evenings catching up on the thirty years we had been apart. I decided I wanted to tell him everything – no matter what - and I did – every last little indiscretion although looking back I think I did most of the talking. The trouble with secrets they have a nasty habit of resurfacing when you least expect it, and bite you in the bum.


For whatever reason MTL decided he wanted to replace all my jewellery, we are not talking the Crown Jewels here, but as a result, apart from Gran’s cameo and the odd present from the shop’s success - I threw the rest in the dust bin. I know, I know I should have given it to charity but it seemed the time for a grand gesture and much whiskey had been consumed.


It was just one of those things one does in the madness of the moment – I don’t regret it and neither of us drink whiskey any longer.

18 comments:

R. Sherman said...

For the same reason essentially, I never drink while watching the Home Shopping Network here in the states. That combination of behaviors always seem to lead to some package being delivered by DHL containing 2000 pocket knives or something.

(True story: I own a broadsword, because of such indiscretions.)

Cheers.

Leigh Russell said...

If it felt right to throw the jewellery away, and you don't regret it, then you did the right thing. Sometimes it's good to make a grand gesture - do something a bit crazy. It's a fitting conclusion to your revelation of all your past indiscretions, isn't it? We can't be sensible all the time!
(I wonder what R Sherman does with the broad sword?!)

R. Sherman said...

Leigh, I put on my daughter's tartan school skirt and pretend to be William Wallace.

Cheers.

Pat said...

Leigh: comforting words. Funny how writing about the past releases forgotten memories - just occasionally the odd one better forgotten.

Randolph: I'd visualised an enormous great thing. I have those swords on my two kilts also. Do you keep the skirt with the French maid's outfit?

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

LOL, LOL....I LOVE this, Pat...!
And I love that you have no regrets about it, too.....! Sometimes letting go of things is very freeing and helps one to truly 'move on'....Isn't wonderful that you and your dear MTL have had ALL these years together....More More More, to come, I pray.

angryparsnip said...

Somehow it seems you know what your doing... How wonderful you found each other again.
I didn't have jewelry, but when my husband walked out and I moved I only took the children, the dogs, a car, books and my artwork. I left him all the house behind and his wine.
Sometimes leaving things behind is a good thing !
Love R. Sherman's buying stories.
What a boring life I lead I don't have a Kilt or a Broadsword... but I do have a Katana. So maybe not too boring...

Guyana-Gyal said...

I have no idea why I hold on to things...must be the Guyanese in me...we don't throw away anything. Some of the 'holding on' stories are hilarious...like one about my grandmother who hid piles of rice bags under her bed.

Pat, I can't begin to tell you how romantic I think your story is.

Eryl Shields said...

Funny how men think! How glamorous and romantic to make such a grand gesture.

R. Sherman, I salute you!

Pat said...

Naomi: it's so nice that people aren't berating me for throwing jewelry in a dustbin. One of my friends was horrified.
BTW I've booked MTL for eternity:)

Parsnip: I also told my husband I didn't want my share of the house but he sold it and insisted I had my share.
That was so brave to do what you did. I felt I could trust MTL so it wasn't quite so brave of me.
BTW what is a Katana?
OOOh I've googled - it's a sword. Not boring at all!

GG: rice bags under the bed? Are you sure she didn't have her jewelry hidden in it?

Eryl: the grain has a lot to answer for. I remember my brother and SIL - after a few drinks - put her necklace of South African gold things round their Westie's neck(dog) and it went out in the garden - they forgot about it and finally found it days later. The necklace - not the dog.
You'll give Randall a big head;)

angryparsnip said...

In the divorce we each kept a house, which I had to sell couldn't afford to live in California after the divorce, plus I received part of business properties I helped build. What monies I received after huge tax bills I invested because I needed to support me and my children who are/were in private schools at the time.
Although quite a scary undertaking and on my own at age 60 I survived, so far...

I think you are really brave and took the leap of faith and it worked out Fabulous !

rosneath said...

I think YTL is just too, too romantic ... and you are too. I love all your stories .... I bet you, like me, have been to Edradour and enjoyed it's beautiful surroundings ...

Gadjo Dilo said...

On a rubbish dump somewhere there's a family of rats with the classiest bling ever!

Pat said...

Parsnip: it must have been scary with children still at school. I think we can both pat ourselves on the back.

Rosneath: I asked him recently if he was like that with his first wife and he said no - probably I surmise - because it wasn't her thing. Horses for courses.
I don't think I have been to Edradour but I would have discouraged visits to distilleries - if that's what it is:)

Gadjo: or a happy dustman's wife:)

Kim Ayres said...

I hope there's a happy dustman's wife somewhere :)

Jewellery has never featured that strongly with me and Maggie. In fact our wedding rings are simple silver celtic knot ones that cost less than a tenner each. Mind you, we were seriously skint when we got married and have still never been able to afford a proper honeymoon...

Pat said...

Kim: simple celtic knot ones would have been fine with me as long as MTL was the donor although one is either a silver or gold person and I'm a gold. The silver jewelry I have doesn't look right on me but the grand daughters seem to prefer silver so their day will come.

sablonneuse said...

Good for you. If it felt right to dispose of your jewellery I'm sure YTL appreciated the gesture and that's what matters.
So pleased your birthday went well and the ring looks terrific.

Nea said...

At least you remember what you did with it, so the whiskey consumption can't have been that bad! I think it was brave of you to bin it, like an act of faith. I'm terrible at clearing out stuff, and cling on to far too much tat.

Pat said...

Nea: I've just been watching Wallander which always reminds me of you. It's b----y miserable most of the time but the landscapes are fascinating.
It was one of those moments when one is compelled to do something willy nilly.